Hire a wedding planner
Hire a wedding planner
Luke here.
After our last email, I wanted to follow up on one thing we always mention to our couples — and explain why.
Our advice almost always stays the same: hire a wedding planner.
Not because it makes our job easier.
Not because we get anything out of it.
But because we’ve seen, over and over again, how much it changes the experience for couples.
Why a planner matters more than couples expect
A planner isn’t just someone who organizes vendors or decor.
A good planner:
protects your time
filters information
manages expectations
handles problems before you even know they exist
Most couples think stress comes from big decisions.
In reality, stress comes from constant decision-making — emails, follow-ups, rules, timelines, logistics — especially when you’re planning a destination wedding from another country.
Resort coordinators vs independent planners
Resort coordinators are helpful, but their role is different.
They work for the hotel.
They focus on resort rules, packages, and logistics.
And they usually step in late in the process.
An independent planner works for you.
They guide you early.
They answer questions when you’re unsure.
They help you make decisions with confidence instead of urgency.
And maybe most importantly, they give you permission to let go.
What we learned planning our own wedding
That’s something we learned firsthand when we planned our own wedding.
Once we trusted our planner, everything felt lighter.
We stopped feeling behind.
We stopped second-guessing every choice.
On the wedding day itself, that trust is everything.
When couples have a planner, they’re calmer.
More present.
More able to actually enjoy the day they’ve been planning for months (or years).
That’s why we always recommend it.
If you don’t hire a planner
And for couples who decide not to hire a planner — that’s okay too.
There’s no judgment here.
It just means you’ll need to be more intentional, start earlier, and lean on the right resources: research, community, and vendors who are willing to help.
Either way, our role stays the same.
We’re here to guide, to listen, and to help you create a wedding day that feels good — not rushed, not overwhelming, and not all about the photos.
Final thoughts
A wedding is a big investment — emotionally and financially.
You deserve an experience that matches that.
— Luke